What To Do If You Are Flat Like A Ken Doll

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October 2010

33 posts

“Our foremost concern was to think about the kind of relationship we wanted to...”

– My mother in an email she sent to a parent of a young transguy. What I love so much about the entire situation of this email is that my mother sent it as an afterthought after she spent an hour on the phone with these parents trying to help them figure out how to find comfort with their...

Response to: What exactly is a dyke, and how are...

What exactly is a dyke, and how are dykes different from other lesbians? genderqueer:(Question asked anonymously to Enoch. This is hir answer.) “Well, I can’t tell you exactly what a dyke is because it’s an identity like any other, and it’s about a personal feeling that a label applies to you. I used to think dyke was a look, a style of dress, and that only lesbians could be dykes. I don’t...

What are some words you use to describe your...

I’m writing an essay about my relationship with my chest and it’s going to include a list of words people use to describe women’s mammary protrusions and another list of words to describe transmasculine folks’ mammary protrusions, so please include which you are referring to in your answer. You can use words you’ve used for other people’s chests too, or...

Anonymous asked: So, I heard a rumor that you are going to be the fluffer for a famous Power Bitch Femme Shark at the Miss LEZ Pageant 2010. Is this true? How do I get a glamorous gig like that?

I'm so jealous of you.

Anonymous asked: What exactly is a dyke, and how are dykes different from other lesbians?

Dyke Nodding Etiquette

As a highly community-seeking dyke-identified person, I get excited whenever I see another dyke in public. I want to let them know I see them there, and isn’t it awesome that we’re two dykes out in the world? I like to make the queer universe feel small in that nice, familiar way, rather than that claustrophobic oh-my-god-I’ve-already-dated-everyone-in-this-room way. Nodding at...

bblackenedbutterfly asked: I've...never even heard of the nod/glance! Are they still in widespread use today, or is it more like the handkerchiefs in the pockets, something of yesteryear? If they are still in use today, would you mind explaining, to the best of your ability? I'd honestly like to learn :D

Repeat after me:

I am worthy. I deserve.

What was high school like for me?

My high school experience was complicated and long because I went to this crazy school that started “high school” in 7th grade. 7th grade: my boyfriend of two years broke up with me the third day and dated a whole lot of other people in the first two months. It became clear that it was because he could and because I had not hit puberty yet. I was heartbroken. blah blah blah drama,...

Anonymous asked: What was your high school experience like? Also, how does one perform the gay boy glance?

Apparently, I only get to sleep every other night. So, even though this is the worst possible day for me to head into with no sleep, my body went ahead and did its thing, and here I am, writing a post at 7 in the morning. While I sat up playing minesweeper, which is my new, destructive addiction (I swear, I was playing because I couldn’t sleep and not the other way around), I ruminated on my...

Things I come out about all the time

I’m a big fan of National Coming Out Day, I think it provides impulse for folks who are in the closet to start to push their way through, and I think it gives those of us who have been out for a really long time a reminder that we are the lucky ones. And we are lucky. Still, it’s kind of sad to me when I realize that I have no opportunity to come out, especially not about my sexuality....

“During the 1960s, a young black man in a university class described the Dutch...”

– George W. S. Trow, from Within the Context of No Context. This is an interesting lens through which to look at teaching people about their privilege. How can we apply what Trow is saying? Is it more effective to say it outright and have people reject power and privilege so that they can also revel...

Anonymous asked: What type of guy/girl are you attracted to?

sapphrikah asked: There's plently of ways in which I do "top", gladly, without hesitance, lol. But then there are some ways I just never really want to. I'm not adverse to reciprocation at all, just in one way... Meh.

sapphrikah asked: I read that four part piece of yours, and it was really enjoyable. I quoted the part about obnoxious tops and the roles and skill sets of tops and bottoms on my page because it gave me comfort. I've topped, by request, and I can say that there is one thing about topping that comes natural to me. There's on skill I'm particularly good at, but the rest are just not there. I'm...

I, Enoch Riese, am a queer, dyke-identified, makeup-wearing, hyper-feminine, female-assigned, male-centered, genderfucked androgyne with a passion for facial hair and women’s shoes. I prefer any non-binary pronouns you are comfortable with and will accept “he” if you are not comfortable with any. I can be described as butch, but it isn’t part of my identity. This National...

I haven't worn real makeup in weeks.

I think I’m ready to start painting myself again.

(A)sexuality and Me: probably more information...

Section 4: In Which I Am Not Sure I Am A Sexual Being Click here for (Section 3) (Start at the Beginning) Still, there was this little issue of me not having orgasms. Now, sex is not about orgasm. I know that. But actually, it is a little bit. When you’re having sex, you want it to be good, and you want that to be signaled by your partner’s orgasm. As someone who has rather enjoyed helping...

(A)sexuality and Me: probably more information...

Section 3: In Which I Am A Sexual Being Click here for (Section 2) (Start at the Beginning) So then I spent a long time in what other people might see as limbo. Though I still flirted with an asexual identity, sex felt like it was something I could be open to under the right circumstances, I just never identified a need for it. I tried to keep in mind that partners might want sex because...

(A)sexuality and Me: probably more information...

Section 2: In which I act as a sexual being Click here for (Section 1) I probably started masturbating when I was 10 or 11 or 12. I kind of divide the evolution of my masturbatory habits into little epochs: In the beginning there was nothing, no sounds, no thoughts, no fancy techniques, just a little bit of rubbing and a little bit of a nice feeling. Then came the music. I would masturbate...

(A)sexuality and Me: probably more information...

Someone posed some questions to me about my past and current sexual identities, and I wanted to respond in a way that people could interact with if there were more questions or comments, so I made you, my faithful readers (hi, mom and dad!) this post. This is an incredibly long story, and a few things happened alongside each of each other for me, so I think I’m going to divide this into...

Anonymous asked: Hi,

I'm not trying to be intrusive or anything, but I was wondering if you still identify as asexual. Because in your last post you said you identified as asexual for some portion of your life (and sought to date sexuals)...
I just ask because I think I might be asexual, but I was wondering if when I get older I might find myself sexually attracted to ppl.

amantesuntamentes asked: I appreciate your response to my post as it helped me to gain an understanding of "pansexuality" as understood by those who identify as pan but may I ask why you came off as so angry at the end there? As I stated, I have no intention of offending those who identify as pan, I'm merely voicing my own confusion with the term.

Pansexuality vs. Bisexuality.

soulfulseductress: My views on pansexuality are summed up in the follow statement taken from Katawa Grey: Pansexuality works on the basis that there are a bunch of genders aside from “feminine” and “masculine.” Personally, I take issue with the term pan-“sexual” because this word implies that are more than two sexes. I would much prefer the term pan-“genderal” much more because that actually...

What Your Partner Probably Means When They Say...

I’ve been writing anecdotally about my relationship with my chest for a class that I’m in, and I think I’ve come up with something. This is a difficult line. As someone who is not male and does not try in any particular way to pass as male, and has an identity that is apparently very difficult for others to understand, and is assigned female, and is highly androgynous in...