June 2011
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idontneedyourhateidecidemyfate asked: Your makes up amazing:). I wish i could be half as good as you.
Jun 1st
May 2011
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Anonymous asked: you are ridiculously attractive. i want to bone you, if you're into that kind of thing.
May 30th
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jemimaaslana replied to your post:  Correction. The bundle of sticks meaning is NOT an urban legend. Fagotto is Italian and means exactly that. It is where the music instrument the basoon got its Danish name(fagot) from. Whether the slur has anything to do with this, however, Idk Thanks for this, but I think Stephen was only saying that the two meanings were in no way connected.
May 28th
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Fun fact:
I am more likely to mistake a young cis boy for a queer or trans female-assigned person than the other way around
May 28th
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quizzicallyqueer asked: Hey, I was looking through your archive for something and noticed you've been on tumblr for a little over a year. Awesome!

Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that you are one of my favorite people I follow on tumblr: I'm always sure to read the essays you post because we seem to think in very similar ways. :)

Keep on posting and thanks for sharing your...
May 27th
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Anonymous asked: (Trigger warning for slurs and discussion of violence against queer people in this ask.)

Hey, it's Stephen/supermattachine, anon because I'm on another human's computer--just wanted to mention that the bundle of sticks thing as an etymology for faggot is an urban legend. Historically, sodomites have been hanged mostly, or shot, and in some rare and biblically...
May 27th
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May 27th
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The Rules of Reclamation
Obviously these rules are just my opinion, but they’re what I’ve observed to be present in successful reclamation movements and lacking in unsuccessful reclamation movements. But Enoch, what are you counting as successful? In my opinion, a successful reclamation movement is one that gets a word to a point that anyone can use it in a positive or neutral way without it being offensive....
May 27th
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ourselvesbecomegods asked: It's the informality, I think. I understand that the word can easily be demeaning and frequently infantilizes whomever it's describing. It's used too often as a separation point as well (e.g. musicians in the rock industry being specific as "rocker chicks" to distinguish from their male counter-parts). I like the term in a reclamation sense coming from the perspective...
May 27th
ourselvesbecomegods replied to your post: technicolourflippers replied to your post: Chick… Strangely, I’m fine with being referred to as a “chick” and it’s probably the only woman-specific word I’m okay with. I’m loathe to use it to refer to others, though, and I share your hatred of “ladies”. Why is that, do you think? The chick thing, I mean. Send me an ask if you need more space.
May 26th
zaataronpita asked: While I don't use the word, "chick," myself to refer to women, I know many who use it as a way of representing and taking pride in their femininity. They use the term in conjunction with others, like the "hacker-chick," who wrote before me. It's their way of saying that their competence doesn't and shouldn't negate their femininity and vice versa.
May 26th
mothcub asked: I'm so happy to see your comments on the word "chick" because I see so many activisty/social justice people using it and it upsets me. I remember looking for the origin and I found a book purported to be the first use of it that had a passage like "he didn't want to marry her anyway, the brainless fluffy chick."

How nice.

A thing about...
May 26th
technicolourflippers replied to your post: Chick is an offensive term? I was unaware! That’s good to know, I’m sorry! :’) Thanks for helping out! I use lady as well but I think that’s just because i like the way it sounds. ooo, I REALLY hate the word lady. But again, that’s just me. Actually, I hate “ladies” so much more. It’s weird.
May 26th
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starryhours replied to your post: starryhours replied to your post:  this just… yes, we did. but maybe it was at 4am because that happened often. and i had said that i use it to identify as an honest, strong, confident, no-bullshit taking kind of woman. something to that effect and then some Now I remember. Everyone, this is Deena, an example to us all.
May 26th
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starryhours replied to your post:  this just reminds me of how i’ve reclaimed “bitch.” wooo When’d you do that? I don’t remember. I think “bitch” is one of the more complicated ones. Did we talk about this and I forgot?
May 26th
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mxtori asked: After seeing your response to the Anon about the term chick potentially being taken as offensive, I want to get your opinion on other terms that have been "reclaimed" by the LGBTQ+ community. (I'll elaborate in a minute).

I personally don't understand how the term chick could be used in an uplifting manner. Looking back, I've only ever used it in an...
May 26th
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blackenedbutterfly replied to your post: Chick is an offensive term? I was unaware! That’s good to know, I’m sorry! :’) Thanks for helping out! it also semi-infantilizes them Word. I thought I had implied it, but I’m glad you said it.
May 26th
Anonymous asked: I love that you preach activism respectfully! You're one of the best blogs I follow about activism for that reason! :)
May 26th
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Anonymous asked: Chick is an offensive term?
I was unaware! That's good to know, I'm sorry! :')

Thanks for helping out!
May 26th
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By the way, y'all:
It takes a lot of belligerence and resistance on the part of another person for me to get aggressive, so if you’re coming to me hoping I’ll really go after someone who did something you don’t appreciate, I recommend you ask someone else.  Working on a longer piece about it, but don’t expect it for a long-ass time. It’s been sitting in my drafts for months.
May 26th
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Anonymous asked: I care deeply about gstlbqq (gay straight lesbian transgender, queer, questioning rights.) or however y'all think of yourself

Can you please explain to this chick how offensive this is? She threw straight people in with a bunch of oppressed groups, and she also discredited any sexuality other then straight with "however y'all think of yourself".

I...
May 26th
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Poem in the voice of Satoshi Kanazawa
(click or scroll over for backstory) The first time I saw my penis, I thought it was the ugliest thing in the world I decided to conduct an objective survey To control for variables, I cornered unknown women at parties I found secret moments alone with them after school in the yearbook office I rode the train with my fly unzipped and my boxers open I waited for their reactions I learned that 90%...
May 25th
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"Freak Privilege"
Today, while I was waiting for the subway, I saw a man exercising what I have decided to call “freak privilege”—he was singing out loud (badly) to his music and dancing a little bit. Now, because this man was well-dressed, well-groomed, white, and listening to his music on expensive headphones, he encountered other people’s eye rolls and annoyance rather than the personal space...
May 25th
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An epiphany
I think I finally figured out a way to explain why I think that an attraction to me is always queer that doesn’t involve my genitals, my chest, or really my relationship to them. I think what’s so queer about finding me attractive is that I’ve styled myself in a way that I feel removes me from heteronormative ideas about beauty, attractiveness, and sex appeal. I should pause...
May 21st
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Things I am getting relaxed about and things I am...
I went into the women’s bathroom twice this week, and those are the first times I’ve been in that type of space that was designated for women since, I think, the beginning of my junior year of high school. The first time was at school and I went in because I was talking with a friend and she needed to wash her hands. My main objection to using spaces designated for women in that way is...
May 21st
Apparently I inherited my genderfuck style from my...
She was just telling me how much she used to love to put on a beard and wear very formal dresses to parties. I’m never going to be my own person, I guess…
May 21st
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You Know You're Trans* When: #688 Gay people and...
I actually have the opposite experience. Sure, I’ve had experiences with gay guys who wouldn’t date me because I didn’t have a penis, and I wouldn’t be too comfortable dating a straight dude, but I’ve dated gay-identified and straight-identified women. Mostly, though, I’ve dated queer-identified people, and it’s all been great.
May 17th
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May 16th
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May 5th
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