sayyoudo: @boygirlboigrrrl re: I have cool friends who talk identity politics and semantics with me at 2am I tried to leave 2 replies and I think they might have replaced each other, oops But I was thinking about how you would express this and I ended up finding http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Logical_disjunction#Symbol and the symbol latin symbol ‘vel’ as in ->...
mewmewfoucault: a friend of mine posted the following on my facebook wall the other day, probably in response to this post of mine I saw on your tumblr that there are some problematic issues surrounding white cis queer folk using the term “fierce”. I tried to look up why that would be but didn’t really find anything. I was wondering if you had the time/inclination, could you maybe explain why...
I have cool friends who talk identity politics and...
jaygreenbunny: re: yr latest tumblr post
what do you think of
"trans/women only spaces"?
versus "women and trans* only spaces"?
i can put it to my followers if you like
my qualm is that it sounds like women and transfolk with woman-centric identies
but that could just be me
I was thinking that that would solve what people read as a problematic exclusive of transwomen
because "women and trans*" reads to me the same way as "women and people of color" does
but max pointed out the same thing
about the exclusive of transmen
me: yeah, and i see the problem with women and people of color too, but i think that hopefully most people get the that there's a semantic gap in our ability to articulate that we recognize that categories are overlapping but not in every case
and that such spaces are not meant to deny that it is possible to be both a woman and a person of color?
jaygreenbunny: I think the problem with that is because woc and transwomen are both categories of people who are traditionally doubly oppressed
and often erased
that it feels careless?
me: maybe we could use a venn diagram?
jaygreenbunny: yeah I was just thinking that
too bad we can't typographically represent venn diagrams
also that's problematic with transmen/transwomen/ciswomen/non-gc people/etc
like, how do we even visually represent that?
me: wait, why is it problematic for all those folks?
one circle is women and the other is trans people
they intersect at trans women
and everyone in any part of the diagram is welcome
or in your other example, it's poc and women
the intersection is woc
it's too bad that math logic doesn't actually apply in colloquial speech
me: because then we could say people who are women or trans*
me: and that would acknowledge that either or both can be true
jaygreenbunny: I was making my diagram more complicated than it needed to be
me: lol, what was yours?
jaygreenbunny: women and/or trans* spaces?
jaygreenbunny: Uhhh I was making permutations of each pair of those 4
and trying to put those together
...it was very messy
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No good can ever come of the phrase "women and...
nowisgreater: This is a response I wrote to this question on ciscentrismsucks. I submitted it as an ask and have no idea when/if it will be published. I hate that you can’t reblog asks, so am just reposting it here for posterity. To the person who is going to teach a class about “women/trans* pleasuring themselves”, I’m just going to say right now that I seriously do not think you should...
whatfreshhellisthis replied to your post: whatfreshhellisthis replied to your post: Hey, I… I meant to say that I’d ask everyone this if they didn’t make it clear which they wanted. I dislike labelling them too as a non woman who wears dresses, but it’s difficult be neutral, make yourself understood and also not come across as patronising. Yeah, I totally get you. I do think it’s a...
whatfreshhellisthis replied to your post: Hey, I have a friend who works in a retail store and all the clothing is split up between men and women. Every now and then someone comes in and asks where a certain article of clothing is and my friend doesn’t know if she should show them the men’s or the women’s. So… is it rude to just ask what their gender is… what’s a good way to ask… wouldn’t it be...
Anonymous asked: Hey, I have a friend who works in a retail store and all the clothing is split up between men and women. Every now and then someone comes in and asks where a certain article of clothing is and my friend doesn't know if she should show them the men's or the women's. So... is it rude to just ask what their gender is... what's a good way to ask... wouldn't it be offensive if...
supshawn answered your question: benetherington answered your question: Does anyone… they meant honey. oooooooooh. Thanks. I thought they were just calling me honey. Which, like, people do.
benetherington answered your question: Does anyone know an effective spray adhesive that is safe for skin? Honey. Any time I come near a bottle my entire body becomes sticky for three days. A bottle of what?
Does anyone know an effective spray adhesive that...
Inquiring Mr. Transman contestants and their pageant moms want to know.
rat-fag asked: Hey! I've been following you for a while, and I was pretty sure I recognized your photo in an article about Mr. Transman 2011; do you happen to be one of the contestants? (I already have my ticket and I'll be there with bells on!)
844) I am out as trans, pre-transition (but bind...
delisubthefemmecub: I wish you luck on your journey. And also, I warn you that many trans people (including myself) have found women’s colleges to be far less supportive than we expected. I would encourage you to look beyond women’s colleges for safe space. If a women’s college feels right to you and you’ve done the personal work to understand your relationship to being...
I have been struggling toward embodiment for most of my life. It is one of the...– This is the part that I identified with most from tgstonebutch’s longer post, A wider context for gender dysphoria. Click to read the whole thing; it’s great. I really appreciate how it points out how applicable these feelings are to so many different struggles.
Some honesty about my body image.
I know that I have often said that I don’t experience dysphoria, but that, like so many other ways that we talk about ourselves, is a gross oversimplification of my experience. My relationship with my body and with the gendered nature of my body is an incredibly complicated web of notions and feelings that I and people who have been romantic or sexual with me have only come to understand...