ah, that’s a good idea! There are lots of things behind it, choice being #1. But also still recovering from an abusive breakup and rape, and living in Utah where the pickings are slim. meaning I was sort of being funny in my “can’t get laid no matter how hard I try” in my first msg
Ah, gotcha. I mean, hopefully that means you’re taking care of yourself, at the very least. It sounds like you’re doing the right thing for yourself right now, especially in a small community. Still, you definitely want to carry a glove or two. You never know, maybe you’ll run into a really positive and healing sex emergency!
oh god that post about dyke march reminded me of this guy that hit on me at slutwalk. i was so stunned i didn't know how to react. especially because he was asking what was written on my chest WHICH WAS CLEARLY "CONSENT IS SEXY." i had never felt so violated before. ew ew ew
Ugh, see, this is the shit that happens. I’m really sorry that you had that experience, especially in a space that was trying to be empowering and safe. I had a dyke come up to me at dyke march and ask, “may i?” not specifying what. Then, without waiting for my answer, she ran her flag across my chest to watch the way it rippled.
We need people looking out for us to tell these people that if they continue to behave the way they are behaving, they will face an angry mob.
So, as I’ve probably mentioned, I carry safer sex supplies with me wherever I go. For days out of the house, that means a card case with 6 gloves, and for longer trips I’ve taken to carrying my gloves in a jam jar with a little sachet of lube at the top.
I just went to Wisconsin for a training, and I didn’t check my bags, which meant all my personal stuff was on view to the TSA agents who were checking me through the line.
After I went through the millimeter wave machine (always get panicky around those, but I don’t bind when I fly, so I’m not really subject to extra scrutiny with them), I got pulled to the side with my bag, and the TSA agent started going through it.
It wasn’t long before she pulled out my glove jar, and her eyes widened a bit. “Well,” she said. “We pulled you over because on the screen this looked like a liquid, but this is definitely not a liquid. I’m gonna have to run this back through the scanner, but you’re probably good to go.”
I grinned at her and she went off to send my bag through again. She quickly came back with my bag and my jar, and, as she handed it back to me, she said (so knowingly), “You have a wonderful day.”
Hello Enoch, it's Erica from YP4 - glad to find this wealth of info of your tumblr. Never grabbed a chance to ask you about the pronoun "per" which I've read used in place or both him/her and he/she. Are you familiar or friendly to the word?
I don’t know much about the pronoun “per.” How does it decline? I’m friendly with all non-binary pronouns.
Some trans blogger who got to be a pretty big deal in the tumblrsphere before people started wising up to who he really was. Which, apparently was pretty recent. He’s pretty well connected and involved in a bunch of real-life and internet community stuff.
[tw: sexual violence, rape culture, rape apology] Rape in our community
I’m reading a lot of posts about people coming forward and saying Ira Gray raped them. I’ve read so many that I feel sick, and I don’t have it in me to say very much about it.
I don’t know Ira; I’ve never read his blog or interacted with him in any way, but this is me publicly stepping even further away from him. I stand with the individuals who have spoken out about Ira’s abuses. I have read Ira’s responses, and I find them reprehensible. If you have any affiliation with Ira and you have the capacity, I urge you to read what he and others have been saying. Make the decision for yourself, though I’m sure you’ll find that he is a rapist and a sorry excuse for a rape apologist.
EDIT: I haven’t read any specifics about Asher Bauer at all, though his name has been coming up. He’s another person I’ve never interacted with in any way, and I can’t say anything about it until I figure out how to inform myself.