Q:I appreciate your response to my post as it helped me to gain an understanding of "pansexuality" as understood by those who identify as pan but may I ask why you came off as so angry at the end there? As I stated, I have no intention of offending those who identify as pan, I'm merely voicing my own confusion with the term.
Word, I’m really sorry about the anger. I’m totally exhausted right now and was much less even in my writing than I normally am, and I was very worried about coming off as unnecessarily indignant and had someone look it over to tell me if it was ok. Apparently this person did not do a very good job.
Still, I can assure you I was not angry at you. I was more trying to provide you with a snippy answer if someone wants to get in your face about pansexuality being transphobic. I’m angry at people who are so absorbed in their own struggle that they’re not actually trying to find the reasoning behind some phenomena, and who can’t look around themselves to see that they don’t own things like gender or transness. I’m very tired of having this debate with people who act that way and invalidate my identity by speaking very loudly about their identities being invalidated. I could tell that you are not one of those people, it just sounded to me like you’d maybe encountered some of them and that they had managed to convince you, erroneously, that there is some problem in recognizing the attractiveness of people whose genders or bodies are outside the binary.